相忘于江湖 Forget Each Other in the Rivers and Lakes

“People would rather forget themselves in the rivers and lakes than help each other when both are in humble circumstances” is a passage from a fable story by Zhuang Zhou. In order to clarify the meaning of this paragraph, I specifically went to Baidu net and then used the term "forgetting in the rivers and lakes" as my internet name.
The rising tide of the seawater pushed two fish into a small puddle on the shore. As the seawater receded, the water in the puddle became less and less. In the end, the two fish could only wet each other with their saliva to survive. In this scene, one of the fish said to the other, "It's better for us not to know each other and swim freely in the river in this situation.”

The story behind it is unknown, perhaps the seawater is rising again and two fish are able to return to the sea. One of the fish couldn't forget the days of mutual support and was also trying to find another fish, but the result was painful. Even if he really found the fish and found it living carefree, the other fish had already forgotten that period of time and didn't care about it at all. It seemed that the story had never happened.

The pain of this fish comes from its unwillingness to give up and not let go.

When I was a child, there was a game of pulling a rubber band. Two people tightened a rubber band, and then agreed to let go at the same time. At this time, the person who finally let go will be hurt by the rubber band that bounces back.

Whether it's friendship or love, the one who is the most persistent and unwilling to give up is the one who will hurt the deepest.

When people are in poverty and hardship, they are more likely to unite, help each other, and overcome difficulties together. But once the environment such as time and place changes, people's ideas and concepts often change. At this point, if anyone still holds onto past promises and vows, or even comes to bind people and things that have changed, it can only be asking for trouble.

Always remember the help you have given to others, and even consider yourself a benefactor, which is asking for trouble. One always remembers the past vows of friendship and mutual support, and hope that one’s lover will remain faithful like me, but in the end, things have gone against one’s wishes.

Forgetting each other in the rivers and lakes actually contains a great wisdom. We often say that not remembering the past and not fearing the future means forgetting the past, whether it is beautiful or painful. Forget the help you gave to others, the harm you received from others, the years of mutual support, and the joys and sorrows of separation and reunion.

In short, removing the burden on oneself and moving forward with ease is the only way to live a happy life.

“相濡以沫，不若相忘于江湖”，这是庄子一则寓言故事里的一段话。为了弄清楚这段话的意义，我专门百度了一下，然后便将“相忘于江湖”一词拿来作为自己的网名了。

海水涨潮，把两条鱼推到了岸上的小水洼里，海水退去，水洼里的水越来越少，最后，两条鱼只能用唾沫相互湿润对方，以求得生存。此情此景，其中一条鱼对着另一条鱼说：“我们现在这种情况，还不如我们不相识，各自自由自在地畅游在江河中。”

后面的故事不得而知，或许海水再次涨潮，两条鱼得以回到了大海。其中的一条鱼念念不忘那段相濡以沫的日子，也在竭力寻找着另一条鱼，可结果令其伤痛。即使真的寻找到了那条鱼，发现那条鱼无忧无虑地生活着，早已忘记了那段岁月，根本没有惦记在心上，似乎那段故事从没发生过。
这条鱼的痛苦来源自它的不愿放弃，不放手。

儿时，有一种拉皮筋的游戏，两个人拉紧一根橡皮筋，然后说好同时放手。这时候，最后放手的那个人便会被弹回的橡皮筋打得心痛。

无论是友情还是爱情，最执着、最不愿放弃的那个人才会伤得最深。

贫穷艰难之时，人们更容易团结在一起，相互帮助，共渡难关。可一旦时间、地点等环境发生了变化，人们的思想观念便往往发生了改变。此时，若是有谁还抱着过去的承诺、誓言念念不忘，甚至来绑架时过境迁的人和事，那只能是自讨苦吃了。

时时记得自己曾经给予别人的帮助，甚至以恩人自居，这是自寻烦恼。时时记得曾经的山盟海誓和相濡以沫，并希望爱人同自己一样忠贞不渝，可结果往往事与愿违。

相忘于江湖，实际上包含了一种大智慧。我们常说，不念过往，不畏将来，就是要把过去的事忘掉，无论是美好的还是酸楚的。忘掉自己给予别人的帮助，忘掉别人给予自己的伤害，忘掉那段相濡以沫的岁月，忘掉悲欢离合。

总之，卸掉身上的包袱，轻装前行，才能快乐地走过一生。

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